I would like to share with you 3 Valuable Life Lessons I learnt on Fathers Day 2016.First of all, Did you have a good Father’s Day? Dorcas (my wife) and I celebrated it with the kids that fathers day weekend. We went out to lunch and then to a movie together. We don’t usually have movie dates at a theater, so it’s always a big deal when it happens! We watched a funny movie and laughed until we cried… which is always cathartic!
This year’s father’s day gave me another opportunity to reflect on the 2 father’s that have had influences upon my life - My biological father Engr. Ime Ettang and my father-in-law Mr. Jonathan Onigbinde.
Futhermore, I had time to reflect on myself on being a father to my children. Last year [I wrote a letter to my son Jeremiah on fathers day] and this year I saw him read the letter again.
Reading Luke 3:22 and the relationship between God the father and God the son, I learnt 3 Valuable Life Lessons I feel you need to know from Fathers Day 2016.
Luke 3:21–22Amplified Bible (AMP) 21 Now when all the people were baptized, Jesus was also baptized, and while He was praying, the [visible] heaven was opened, 22 and the [a]Holy Spirit descended on Him in bodily form like a dove, and a voice came from heaven, “You are My Son, My Beloved, in You I am well-pleased and delighted!”
Lesson 1 - A father identifies with his son.
The first lesson I see here is how God identified with Jesus. “You are my son”, in some other bible version it says “This is my beloved son”. That was a public declaration during Jesus’ baptism in the midst of other people.
Even though my children are still young, I can see how their faces light up when I come to them while playing with their friends and say - That’s my boy! or That's my girl!
Lesson 2 - It is important that a father affirms his children
Children need the affirmation of their parents. It helps them feel secure. Affirmation also leads to empowerment. When a father affirms his children with loving statements, he empowers them with a deep sense of worth.
If I do not affirm my children, then the devil will be lurking around to affirm my children and lead them to the wrong path.
Lesson 3 - Children get their identities from their parents.
The merriam-webster dictionary defines identity as “who someone is : the name of a person” or “the qualities, beliefs, etc., that make a particular person or group different from others”.
Which implies that the identity of a child is more than the surname the child bears, the looks, mannerisms - it encompases his whole personality.
As Christians, our identities are first and foremost from Christ. If we are of Christ that should be evident just as being in the world is also evident.
John 8:44 King James Version (KJV) 44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
In the passage above - these people were identified with the devil because of his character traits.
This places a greater responsibility on me to train my children in the way of God and be careful what identity I pass on to them.
Alright have a blessed week ahead.
Feel free to check out: - The letter I wrote to my son in father’s day 2015 - An open letter to my father on father’s day 2014 - [A video interview I had with my mother on my experience as a young father and the influence my father had on me while growing up.]
Question: What lessons did you learn on fathers day? Feel free to write it in the comments section below.